Fantasy and or Kink (Part 1):

How do you spice up your pleasures? Have you considered trying to spice it up? Is there a difference depending where in the cycle of life you find yourself, perhaps when it was all Boy/Girl friend you did it differently to now?

Looking around as one does (looking to be inspired with writing themes) I can not help but notice that there are a number of what we might refer to as Generic themes which every would be sexual therapist, guru, and expert will claim to be the magic bullet to spicing things up.

• Group

So there are two of you in this relationship, but to spice things up do you think about adding a third person? Should they be another male or another female? Why stop at just another one?

But before you reach for your phone book and phone a friend perhaps you should be considering what the post event results will be? Will the two ever be the same, will they be improved or will they become strained? Should it be a friend, and if so to both of you or just the one, oh the dynamics and play boggle the mind. I once knew a girl that said she had tried two men and said that it was the worst night of sex ever, too many hands and no way to focus on anything, so I guess the results may vary 😊

I visited this theme in “J&J” and it proved an emotional roller coaster for the couple.

• Dress up

Everyone has things they like to wear for that special occasion, and everyone as preferences to what their partner looks special in to them. Do you ever attire in a special way and allow the occasion to take its course, or do you think dressing up when it will all end up on the bedroom floor is a waste of time and effort?

• Role play

This is an obvious expansion of dressing up, for now the one in the outfit becomes another person, takes upon themselves the roll for which they are dressed, the more common are perhaps:

1. Doctor

2. Policeman/woman

3. Nurse

4. Maid

Have you ever dipped your toe in these waters? How easy was it to assume the roll and stay with it until the very end? Or maybe you started with the roll and then allowed it to fade away as the pleasure really took off?

• Stranger

As far as I can see this adventure comes in two main flavours:

1. Actual Stranger

The potential thrill of meeting a total stranger and hooking up with them, jumping on the roller-coaster and seeing where it leads to.

2. Pretend Stranger (another role play)

The potential thrill of meeting a total stranger and hooking up with them, jumping on the roller-coaster and seeing where it leads to.

A night of passion with the other half after pretending to meet in a bar and acting like you don’t actually know one another. How do you set you mind to do this, how do you force yourself not to do the things you know your partner actually likes just because, without going through the steps to find out what they like as if you really didn’t already know.

• Submit / Dominate

Perhaps this is a life style for you, or perhaps it is another variant of role play, the act of giving control to another is a powerful one not to be ignored. The same is also true for the one taking the control, the responsibility for the one being dominant is massive, for they have to care for the one they control.

If for you it is a role play do you always perform it the same way is he or she always the sub? If so then why always the same way, what reason do you have to not switch it around?

Next time we will look at the location and whether that has an effect upon your pleasures as you perform what is above, feel free in your comments to suggest others, you never know your idea might be the very thing another reader needs to energise their pleasure 😊

Cole